My girlfriends and I always say we could write a book on all the stupid things people say to you when you are trying to get pregnant. Who would have thought that the ignorant comments continue once you adopt. For the first few weeks people would comment on how great I looked for just having a child. It was flattering at first and I would smile and say that we adopted and that is why I look and feel wonderful. Well, 12 weeks later, it is getting a little annoying. Another comment that has got me in a fit, is the "welcome to the club" comments. One of Greg's family members actually said, " welcome to the club..see what you have been missing all these years." Are you serious? Like we were purposely not trying to have a family? I don't like these "club" comments one bit. It makes me feel like I did when I was going through treatments. Like you only belong if you can get pregnant and carry a child. So now that we have a child we can be a part of this exclusive club? Please. I don't feel a part of a fertile couple's club. I feel more a part of a community of adoptive parents that have struggled and prayed and hoped for their miracle to find them. Adoption is an experience I would never trade being pregnant for! That desire is long gone.
