Friday, April 18, 2008

neighborly advice

Throughout these past few years we have dealt with some really ignorant comments. One day maybe I will write a post on what not to say to someone struggling with infertility. When I was least expecting it, another piece of "advice" was thrown my way. I was outside chatting with the neighbor. Greg walks out and the neighbor starts bragging about a concert next Tuesday that Greg wants to go to. I said, "See it is on Tuesday and we have class so you can't go anyway." The neighbor than turns to me and says, " What class?". It took me about two seconds to debate in my head what to say. So I proudly say, " A class on adoption." Are you ready?? Here it comes.... "Julie, please.. you just need to work harder at it!" ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Here I am thinking that five years, 6 IUI's, 2 IVF's, a baby that died in me, and $25,000 was working hard!!! What a blow. I simply said, " Well on that note, I am leaving, Greg you can fill him in." I turned looked at Greg and went to get dinner. Granted, my neighbor has no clue what we have gone through, but why did that have to be the comment that came out?

3 comments:

Patti Rae said...

Julie, my heart just sank when I read this..... I'm so very sorry. I'm really glad Greg was there to take care of it......

Jason said...

Times like these always make me want to be more careful with what I say to people. I know that I've probably said something equally stupid without knowing. Even so, this guy is a real jerk! Did he look a little diff after Greg was done "talking" to him? :)

Kymberli said...

Ouch. Sorry that you had to endure such ingnorance.